Navigating Motherhood: Challenges of Wounded Femininity

Today's woman is often left to her own devices in the process of motherhood and womanhood. What was once embedded in a supportive culture has now disappeared. Rituals, transitions, community, and clear role models that helped a woman become a mother and wife have vanished. The modern woman has to figure everything out for herself—pregnancy, childbirth, raising children, partnership, existence.

In the past, she was accompanied. Older women stood by her, mothers passed on knowledge, and men provided protection and structure. Today, both are lacking: female guidance and male support. Thus, motherhood becomes a solitary task, not a spiritual calling.

The Daughter Without a Father

Many women of our time are daughters without fathers. They grew up in broken families, without the model of a true marriage, without the tangible interplay between father and mother. Where the father is absent, the boundary is missing—that inner line along which trust, identity, and spiritual orientation are formed. The girl learns that closeness is unreliable. She experiences vulnerability, but also responsibility that comes too soon.

Without the father as a mirror of the spirit, the daughter remains too bound to the body. She feels the longing for love, but doesn't know how to find peace within it. She can give birth—biologically—but spiritual motherhood remains inaccessible to her. For becoming a mother and a wife are not physical processes, but rather emotional and spiritual initiations. They demand trust, devotion, and the ability to integrate oneself into a higher order. The feminine remains incomplete, the daughter remains stuck.

The Fatherless Society

A society without fathers is a society without direction. The father symbolically represents spirit, order, boundaries, and responsibility. Where he is absent, the feminine loses its guidance and the masculine its purpose. The result is a general sense of fragmentation: women assume masculine roles, men withdraw, and children grow up without support.

In this disorientation, love also becomes superficial. The woman seeks support in physical closeness, the man seeks physical validation. The encounter loses depth because it is no longer grounded in the spirit. This creates a culture in which sexuality is separated from fertility and relationships are detached from responsibility. The feminine is instrumentalized, the masculine devalued.

Chronic Stress and Breach of Trust

The loss of trust between men and women is one of the deepest wounds of our time. Women fear that their husbands will leave them, that their marriages won't last, that they will end up alone. This fear has not only a psychological but also a biological impact. During pregnancy, the mother's inner state is directly transmitted to the child. Stress hormones, anxiety, and overwhelm become signals for the unborn child.

Even in the womb, the child learns that the world is uncertain.

The more trust, security, and peace the mother experiences, the more stable the child's development. The more fear, mistrust, and loneliness she endures, the more deeply insecurity is imprinted on the child's nervous system. Thus, the fatherless society is perpetuated from generation to generation—in body, mind, and soul.

Return to the Father

Where the biological father is absent, religion becomes the bridge. It reminds us of spiritual fatherhood, of the higher order that transcends the human family. In faith, the daughter can return to her father—not to a hurtful image, but to the eternal source of trust. The religious relationship is a symbolic reconnection with the paternal principle: with God as the source of protection, meaning, and measure. Through this reconnection, the inner void is healed. The woman experiences that she is held—even if no man holds her. From this experience grows a new trust that no longer depends on people, but comes from within.

Ritual and religious life gives existence direction and depth once again. In prayer, in rhythm, in the conscious shaping of daily life, being is ordered. Every action gains meaning because it is embedded in a higher order. Thus, the individual experiences themselves again as part of the whole—carried, guided, and held. Religion is therefore not an escape, but a return: the return to the Father, who is both origin and goal.

Children, too, find protection in religion. Where the biological father is absent or has grown weak, the heavenly Father remains as a spiritual presence. Prayer, rituals, and shared religious symbols give the child a sense of guidance and security. In this way, the child learns that it is not alone—that there is meaning and order over all things. This experience forms the inner foundation for trust and emotional stability. Faith thus becomes the invisible roof under which the family remains spiritually protected and connected.

The spiritual calling of the Women

True motherhood doesn't begin with birth, but with the awakening of the spirit. A woman becomes a mother when she consciously assumes responsibility for life—with her heart, her mind, and her will. She becomes a wife when she integrates herself into the order of love that transcends herself. Both are spiritual roles, not merely biological ones.

The feminine is healed when it reunites both: receiving and trusting, giving birth and letting go, body and spirit. And the masculine is healed when it once again offers protection, sets boundaries, and bestows dignity upon the feminine.

Then the daughter can learn what she has never known: that love is not just a feeling, but an order—and that becoming a mother is a sacred task that transforms life itself.

Where women trust again and men protect again, peace returns—in the home, in the children, and in the world.